Recently, a brother in the Messiah sent me an email regarding his marriage and their prospective roles within. I thought I'd share its content with you, perhaps to quicken our wifely hearts and REMIND us how, in one fell swoop, we can [yes, are called] to love those lovely hunks of men called husbands ADONAI has given to us.
Here is our Brother's (edited) email to me:
i like you blog and i would like to give you my more sincere congratulations for it. I guess you are very busy woman, and maybe you do not have the time to answer private questions but anyway I would like also to take the chance and ask you about some questions that are really pressing my mind/life sometimes. I am married to a wonderful wife...
My question is, of course from the Christian point of view of the word of God, what do you feel about women leading the household? is it sin? is it wrong for a man to be natural subordinated to his wife inside the family?
I thank you immensely any answer and God bless you.
My response to our brother's question:
"As with all questions we may have pertaining to the Word of God and life, ADONAI reveals His Truth to us as we study TOGETHER with other Believers. Are you and your wife involved in a fellowship where you can study as a couple and a men's fellowship and women's fellowship separately? In the context of a group setting is when and where ADONAI reveals His greatest Truths to us.
I asked my husband what advice he'd give to you and he said that you'd gain a great deal of understanding and depth as you study alongside a body of brothers and pastors in your local fellowship. Your question is not a short email thread, but rather an unfolding and unveiling of Truth over time and practice (sanctification) regarding His intentions that you both may operate in your God-ordained roles in the power of His Spirit.
She is to "phobeo" (Greek, meaning 'revere, respect, be in awe of') you and you are to love (agapeo) her as Christ loved the Set-apart Ones (church). We are BOTH called (as set-apart ones) to LOVE AS CHRIST fully in the roles HE has ordained. That takes mutual submission realizing that the husband is head of the wife as Christ is head of the assembly of Believers. (Ephesians 5)
May ADONAI RICHLY BLESS your marriage (and thus, your family) as you both seek Him together for His blessing, favor, mercy, power, protection, provisions and LIFE abundant.
"For it is written that man shall not live by Bread alone, but by every Word that proceeds from the mouth of God." ~Yeshua HaMashiach (Matthew 4:4)
To LOVE AS CHRIST is the question we all should ask daily, regardless of the role HE has put us in.
May HE be glorified in us!"
And May HE so be...and may our husbands, without hesitation, be able to say...
He who finds a wife finds a great good; he has won the favor of ADONAI.
~ Proverbs 18:22